Going on a first date can be stressful. If you asked a girl out and she accepted your offer, you are probably thinking of where to take her.
One thing is for sure, a restaurant is always a good option.
So, how to behave on a first date at the restaurant? Are there some golden rules for a successful date?
What things should never be done in front of a girl in public?
If you want to know the answers to these questions, please keep reading. I am sure you will learn some new things and you will have an unforgettable great first date.
So let’s start!
1.Eat familiar food – If you don’t want to embarrass yourself in front of your date, make sure to eat familiar food.
Just imagine how awkward it would be if you order some food you have never tried before. You won’t feel comfortable eating it and you won’t be able to confess your feelings to your date.
For example, don’t order lobster just because it looks good or because it sounds fancy. You need to understand lobster is difficult to eat and you can’t just leave it untouched. (Of course, if you have money, you can do that but it doesn’t make a very good first impression. So, best not to do that on the first date.)
Don’t hesitate to be authentic. If pizza is one of your favorite dishes don’t hesitate to order it. Favorite foods are always safe options and you won’t feel unpleasant because you will be eating something you really like.
Furthermore, you will be relaxed and have more time to dedicate to your date. I am sure it will be a memorable experience. Fingers crossed!
2. Don’t talk and eat at the same time – You know how rude it is to talk and eat at the same time.
Why do you think teachers at the kindergarten teach kids to close their mouths while they are eating? That rule is made for a reason.
If kids can close their mouths and be polite, why wouldn’t you do the same thing? There is a time for talking but there is also a time for eating only.
If you forget about this golden rule, you will probably experience your food going down the wrong way.
And what will happen next? Drama! Probably, you will start coughing and asking your date to pat your back so you can get some air.
You should consider yourself lucky if you don’t end up in an ambulance with all those nurses and doctors trying to figure out if you were choking or having a heart attack.
Let’s be honest—you don’t want this to happen to you, especially on a first date. If I were your date, I know I wouldn’t call you again.
So, why risk it when you can be polite and have good manners?
3. Be polite to the waiters – You know those people who behave badly towards waiters? Yeah, I know, it is awful.
So don’t be an as***ole and talk to waiters politely. You should remember that they are just ordinary people who are trying to earn some money to support their families. And no, they don’t like up-tight guests.
Always say “thank you” when a waiter serves food or beverages. Always say “thank you” when they come to take away the dirty ashtray from your table. Your date will be fascinated at how polite and sweet you are.
This is a good way to make her attracted to you even more. I hope you will listen to this advice.
4. Make a reservation – Can you imagine the situation when the two of you enter a restaurant and there is no free table?
You just stand there like two idiots because neither of you remembered to make a reservation.
If you don’t want this to happen, make a reservation, especially if you are taking your date to a fancy restaurant.
You need to remember that places like that are always crowded and it is very difficult to get a table, even a couple of days in advance.
You should think about these things in advance. Even if they look totally irrelevant, trust me, they are not.
I am sure you don’t want to spend your first date at the McDonald’s, eating oily burgers and drinking diet Colas.
I know I wouldn’t!
5. Insist on paying – There is a rule that guys should pay the bill on the first date.
Some girls come from a culture which teaches that they should offer to split the bill but a guy who pays for everything is a real gentleman. It’s a natural and nice characteristic which makes him appear caring.
So, don’t go Dutch; handle the bill by yourself.
Just make sure that you have enough cash because you don’t want to get embarrassed in front of your date.
Check the prices before ordering the food. If your date orders an expensive dish and you have money issues, you should order something not that pricey to balance it out.
(And ladies, don’t take offense at his wanting to pay. It just means he wants to please you and paying the dinner is the least he can do.)
6. Carefully choose a restaurant – You probably want to impress your date, so, what better way than choosing a fancy restaurant?
Every girl will feel special if you take her to a fancy place instead of a fast food restaurant. I am not saying you two should go to expensive restaurants every day but here and there it would be preferable.
If she really likes you, she will probably offer to split the bill. Don’t accept it because the gentlemen always pay for everything.
She is the one who needs to feel special, so let this night be only hers. I am sure she will find ways to repay you.
7. Don’t only focus on eating – It is quite normal that you enjoy eating and drinking but don’t let that be your priority.
Just remember why the two of you are sitting there.
It is because you are on a date. People do nice things on dates. Like talking, getting to know each other.
Yes, that’s right. Put your phone away. She’s here so you don’t need to check for her messages. Any other messages can wait, can’t they? After all, you want to make her feel she is your first priority.
People on dates tend to be fun and easygoing. They try to make their date laugh.
That is a natural thing and you should do it as well.
Before eating, ask your date about her hobbies and interests. During dinner, you can ask her if she likes the food.
But don’t be pushy, trying to make her talk while she eats. Be polite and tactful. That is the only way your first date can be be successful.
8. Give tips and compliment the chef – Giving a tip to the waiter will make you look gallant. And women really like gallant men.
A guy doesn’t have to be rich to leave a tip. It just means he respects the restaurant staff and their jobs.
Also, you are going to score extra points if you compliment the chef.
After the two of you have eaten, you should ask your date if everything was okay. If she says that the food was perfect, you should take her out to the same place again but not necessarily the very next time you eat out.
By doing this, she will see that you care for other people’s opinions and she will feel blessed for having someone like you sitting next to her.
9. Find a cozy spot – Being on a first date is not the easiest thing in the world.
You will probably be anxious because the two of you are about to eat together for the first time and you don’t even know each other’s habits.
The last thing you want are curious people that are trying to overhear your talk.
If you want to be totally relaxed, you should reserve a cozy spot somewhere in the back of the restaurant so you can be alone with your date, although perhaps not near the toilets or doors to the kitchen.
It will be much easier to talk when you know nobody is listening to you. She will feel much better because there will be NO curious looks towards her.
There will be no strangers making her feel uncomfortable.
This is very good way to make a deeper bond between you two because you will dedicate yourself totally to your date.
And that’s what dates are all about!
10. Use your manners – All girls like to have a guy with good manners. That is a natural thing. Just think about it.
Would you like to have a guy who spits on a sidewalk while walking down the street? Or someone who treats you like a piece of s**it on the first date? I don’t think so!
Women deserve a man who is caring and loving. They deserve a gentleman who will make them feel like a princess. So, if you want to attract a woman you should pay attention to your manners.
Open the door for her. Pull out her chair. Hold her coat when you enter the restaurant. Insist on paying the bill. Always listen to her carefully.
Women generally like when men they are dating respect their opinions. That is something that gives them hope that this guy is hubby material.
And I suppose that is the final goal of all men!